Returning to my Love...

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When I was a kid, the internet wasn’t really a “thing”. We didn’t quite understand it and it wasn’t something we honestly spent a lot of time on. It existed but it was still so new and so there wasn’t sites like Twitter or Instagram to distract us from the other fun parts of life - like going to the park or calling your friends on a 3 way call. lol



So as a result, I often did other things to occupy my time.

I rode my bike, walked a mile to the library almost every day so I could read and get out the house, I took photos of everything I could since I was sure that one of my jobs would be as a photographer, and I wrote. I wrote all the time.

I wrote short stories, poems, song lyrics, and anything I could think of. I loved to sit in my room for hours and write. My brother also loved to write so we would often write stories and songs and then sing them to one another to see if it sounded “good”.

But once I went off to college and the internet became a big thing too - I became consumed with social media. That took away my time to just sit quietly in my room with music playing and just focusing on my own thoughts- uninteruppted.


This month of November, I want to try and return to that. I want to return to some of my childhood hobbies and get back into the groove of things. I’m interested to know if:

  1. I even enjoy those hobbies anymore and

  2. If it will help improve my mindset & mental health

I find that the more time I spend on social media, the more I struggle with feeling connected to my CURRENT world. I become sucked into the pursuit of likes for validation and it blocks my creativity.

Do you struggle with the same thing when it comes to social media? Let me know in the comments.

Well for now, my goal is simple.

I plan to at least blog 3-4 times a week. This will get me back into the groove of writing simply for the enjoyment of it. I don’t want to promise anything - because at the end of the day - I want this to be something I can enjoy; not something that stresses me out.

What are the hobbies that YOU enjoy doing in order to relax? Let me know down below!



A Day In Chicago with my Love...

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This past weekend, my boyfriend and I went into the City to enjoy a day out. We live a little outside of the city, so we don’t often get to experience the fun things to do in Chicago but this weekend we were able to.



I REALLY needed this weekend. Honestly, my boyfriend needed it too because we BOTH have been so stressed out with working. We love what we do and so we tend to respect each other’s commitment to our careers but it does often mean that our stress levels are high and our fun times definitely need some more attention.

Therefore, this weekend felt like a million bucks.

On Friday, we spent the night indoors. We watched Empire (well I watched it and he fell asleep lol) but we simply had a glass of wine (well he did - my body has been hating alcohol lately) and we simply relaxed. Because life is always “go-go-go” it feels so good to just be at home sometimes with nothing to do and no place to go.

On Saturday, we started off the day really calm before we got ready to drive into the city.

We actually went to Wrigleyville and then took photos in the area. The leaves were so gorgeous that we had to capture it.

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After that, we had dinner in Chinatown, which I have to say….is a beautiful place! I had no idea how cool that area is. To be honest, I didn’t even know it existed so I’m super grateful that I had the chance to experience it with my boyfriend. We had dinner at this restuarant called Ming Hin Cuisine and it was delicious! The wait wasn’t bad either. We had such a fantastic time that we can’t wait to revisit the area for more food and fun.

Once we finished dinner, we went to the movies and saw Nobody’s Fool. There’s not much to say about this because honestly - the movie was awful. It truly was. It was cheesy, poorly written, and 80% of the jokes didn’t land. As in, no one laughed in the theater. When we did laugh, it was usually at moments they didn’t want us to. It was just awful. I think that will be my last Tyler Perry movie voluntarily. lol Even Tiffany Haddish couldn’t save this one.


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We then went to Insomnia Cookies for some snickerdoodles and oatmeal raisin cookies and my word - it was so good! I gotta tell you! This is only my second time eating them, but they tasted DELICIOUS! We don’t have them out in the suburbs so it’s a treat to be able to get them in the city. They are worth all the weight you gain AND the sugar rush. lol Especially the snickerdoodles!

This weekend taught me a LOT. It taught me a lot about taking time away from everything so you can just ENJOY life.

Sometimes I become so obsessed with my business that I live, breathe, and sleep it and it leads to migranes, crying fits, and frustration. Not to mention the loneliness and expectation hangovers that happen too.


When you focus your mind on other things - like hobbies and embracing the EXPERIENCE of living - it can leave you feeling inspired again and that’s a great feeling.

When you focus your mind on other things - like hobbies and embracing the EXPERIENCE of living - it can leave you feeling inspired again and that’s always a great feeling.

So write down a fun thing you can do in your city or town. Be a tourist and look up things to do. Then this upcoming weekend (or your next day off), go out and actually do it. Have a good time and enjoy yourself!

In the mean time, let me know what city you’re close to down below! I’d love to know!

How I Keep A Positive Mindset

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Let's be honest, Life can be super stressful at times. Even when you're trying to be as optimistic as you possibly can be, it can be super tough to actually feel good when the pain and upsets seem never ending.

Recently, I felt that aching feeling of sadness. My own mental health practice is a priority because I do struggle with mental health challenges that can get in the way of my consistency in my business and personal life. 

In order to stay successful and keep my mental health challenges in check, I have several routines that I follow to support my health. Running a business, being in a relationship, and trying to be there for my clients can be tough-so it's important that I maintain my routine. 

Take a look for inspiration & share YOUR routine down in the comments or over in my free group!

My Basic Positive Mindset Routine

This is the routine I follow on a weekly (sometimes daily) basis.

GREAT FOR:

  • Anxious moments

  • Sadness or Depression

  • Loneliness

  • Moments of self doubt

  • Fear of Success or Failure

  • Moments of self hate

SOUNDTRACK:


STEPS:

  • Prepare yourself Chamomile or St. Johns Wart Tea (NOTE: St. John's Wart is NOT suggested if you are on birth control, as it makes your birth control ineffective) OR Take CBD gummies or drops 10-25 minutes before your bath (I encourage one or the other)

  • Play Jason Stephenson's video by speaker

  • Draw yourself a warm bath 

  • Include 2-4 cups of Lavender Epsom Salt

  • Lavender Bath Bomb to promote relaxation

  • Feel free to also include Lavender Bubble Bath soap 

  • Light candles (as many as you see fit. I include 2-3)

  • Once the bath is ready, get in and soak

  • Listen to the affirmations that Jason says. You can choose to repeat after him, or simply close your eyes and allow your mind to soak in the new beliefs you are creating. 

  • If your mind starts to wander off into your "to do list", simply focus back on your breathe or focus on the affirmations themselves

I follow this routine on a weekly basis, but if I notice that I am becoming:

  • Easily irritated or snappy

  • Quick to anger

  • Judgmental of others

  • Moody

  • Negative & Dark in my thoughts

Then I know I need to do my routine, even if I did it the night before. 

Other necessary parts to my positive mindset routine are:

  • Daily Workouts in the morning or dance classes at night

  • Eating a gluten free diet (I am gluten sensitive, but I can actually eat gluten.) However, I notice that whenever I eat gluten, I not only struggle with the physical symptoms of bloating, constipation, and the works-but I'm also more depressed, moody, and even weepier. I also struggle with managing my temper whenever I've had a gluten heavy diet. 

  • Going to bed before 11pm EVERY NIGHT. Even weekends. The reason for this, is because my mental health has NO CLUE that Saturday nights are different than Tuesday nights. Whenever I don't get QUALITY sleep-not just ENOUGH sleep...my mood & mental health suffers. Going to bed before 12am, means our bodies gets better sleep quality. If you go to bed after 12am, read this for more on why sleeping before 12am is important. 

So what are your mindset routines? Let me know here!